Let me show you a few words to describe me.
- Woman
- Veteran
- Lesbian
- Scientist
- Professional
- Fiancée
- Liberal
- Socialist
Many people have tried to use one or more of these labels to make a point.
"Why do we need refugees when we have homeless vets?"
"If women in the US think they need feminism, they should try living in Saudi Arabia."
"It's not fair for a child to grow up without a father AND a mother."
"Why should
I have to pay for
your health care?"
So many of these comments are made by those on the outside. The ones commenting about homeless vets have never served, nor been homeless. They have not volunteered at the VA, or donated to a crisis center. They probably never said a word about the vets until refugees came up, aside from empty platitudes twice a year.
Whom among feminisms' critics has lived in fear of assault, not from some foreign enemy, but from her fellow citizens, perhaps even from people who should have been
guarding her back. How many among the critics learn to never go somewhere alone with any man, because even "friends" are not safe?
Who among those who call me dyke and pedophile acknowledge that children raised by same-sex couples are statistically FAR more likely to be well-adjusted than those raised by heterosexuals? Who will acknowledge that the staggering majority of children in foster care are from heterosexual parents? Who among those who cry over bathroom bogeymen will acknowledge that queer folk are far more likely to be the victims of crime than the perpetrators?
They call science a religion.
They drive up healthcare cost in the name of profit while trying to pay healthcare workers as little as possible.
They think my love shouldn't be at my bedside in the hospital.
They long for fictitious "good old days."
They think that they exist in a bubble, that their comfort was not built on the necks and backs of those they consider lesser. They do not build their community up when they can build on the bones of those they've destroyed.
People take my identities to use as a tool, a weapon to cause blunt-force trauma to those of whom they disapprove. They are
my identities and I will not let you use me this way any longer.
Psychology has shown for decades that negative reinforcement does not lead to the behavior one wishes. Positive examples and taking care of each other builds a stronger society. It builds a safer, healthier society.
We have countless examples of successful socialized medicine. We see countries with prison rehabilitation so successful that they have to
close some of their prisons. We see countries with far fewer resources than the US run their
entire country on renewable energy. Within our own borders, we have seen the success of universal basic income.
It
does work, and leaving people to die because they haven't
earned whatever status you deem necessary makes you the most monstrous of humans.